At first glance you may think this is an article detesting how I hate how my life has changed, or even me passing knowledge of how to handle such life changes. It’s not that at all. In fact, I could care less if you have embraced or denied your changing life, because really that’s your problem. However, this is just me putting my amazement into words about how life has changed for me.

I have had many life changing events in the past three years, most of which were choices I made. Just to name a few, I got married, bought a car, bought a house, lost a loved one, my wife and I got pregnant, and last but not least my daughter was born. Now this may not seem like many changes, and to some these are normal, however I went from a non-married-living-at-home-video-game-junkie to husband, father, and provider in just under 900 days. Crazy.

My wife and I both have decent jobs and are much better off then most families our age, but we still worry about finances and the affordability of our choices before we make them. After all that is the responsible adult thing to do.

When we first got married and were going to rent a house we both were nervous that we could never afford renting, the utilities, and most everything else that comes with a house. But, despite our worries we did just fine, although we did have to cut a few dinner outings here and there. But that was easy.

After a few months of being married we decided to start trying for a child. We both had our worries in the back of our head. Could we afford a child? What if we need to move? Can we afford a bigger house? Can we afford child care? Are we ready? After discussing around and around all these items we came to the conclusion that we will never think we are ready, and we will never think we have enough money, no matter how long we wait. That’s just how people think.

We succeeded in getting pregnant in just over two weeks. Skip ahead……………. BabyKV is born and due to the fact we are now parents of a child we don’t go out as much, don’t stay out spending money late at night, and all in all enjoy ourselves at home with each other and the baby. Our fears of affording a child a thwarted almost instantly. Sure we are spending money on BabyKV but its money that we were spending on other things that really were not necessary, although very necessary at the time of the previous discussion.

6 months into BabyKV’s life we bought a house, moved, purchased lots of new things for the house, and updated a few places in the new house(paint, tile, door knobs, etc…). Money has not been an issue.

I guess the point of my post is to just go with life, take chances, embrace change, and enjoy family.

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